A baby or young child never feels shame or guilt it’s not intuitive. You could say right and wrong is learnt too and is subjective; what is wrong in one family maybe perfectly acceptable in another.

There are boundaries in every civilized society, rules are essential for respect for each other and life.

But what if you had grown up in Sweden in a family where nudity, taking a sauna together for health reasons, sweating out nasty toxins was a weekly family togetherness. Wandering around the house with no clothes on or very little, was normal because it was so hot. Feeling comfortable around nudity was a given, something completely non sexual. Sleeping with your friend, both naked and no sex involved, just closeness and friendly love.

What if you had never been told not to touch yourself ‘down there’ never been told it was bad or dirty.
What if you had touched yourself in public when you were say 4 years old - because it felt good but you were in company and it was inadvertent, but what if your mother gently took you to one side and told you it’s OK to touch but not outside the house or in company but it was OK in the privacy of your bedroom. Would that feel different? Would you have grown up knowing to touch yourself was part of life, love and a healthy expression of love for your own body?

What if you’d never been told when you were younger that a sexual scene in a film or TV program was disgusting? Would you see it for what it was a time of tenderness and love between two people who felt passion and joy with each other. Sharing rare loving intimacy. Yet a scene of rape explained for what it is a violation and wrong and pornography as sex without the love, an act of cold energy, without emotion.

So what if we reframe making love or sex as joy, love and passion something that gives bliss to each other.
What if we reframed masturbation as self pleasure with the truth that other countries embrace – it’s healthy, it balances sex energy, it keeps your prostate healthy and flowing, you know and trust your body and enjoy the pleasure and bliss your body can give you. You engage with your sex power and know the touch that turns you on and is orgasmic.

For women self pleasure gives intimate knowledge of the touch that feels sensual and wonderous.
Self touch keeps the vaginal juices flowing. Orgasm gives positive energy, a knowing, oneness and a sensation that is so life affirming and satisfying. If you can't bring yourself to orgasm then how can you expect your lover to?

Why as intelligent adults could we have ever believed that sensuality, love and a heart connection could truthfully be guilt ridden and shameful. Other cultures honour and love the body, cultivate it’s energy, make beautiful art with it’s form.

Why in some countries do they carry the heavy weight of shame and guilt regarding sex  learnt from the repressed beliefs of others. This is a free world and we have the right to make an informed, healthy loving choice with our own minds and bodies.

You can let go of guilt and shame. Learn to love your body as a sacred vessel of unlimited bliss and love,

You’re welcome to call me 0873435081 to discuss a life changing session.
Peace and Love from Tara
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Part 2 The dark side of shame and guilt emanating from repression of Sex with no connection or human emotion-Coming Soon

 'It's happening every time now, my erection is there ready to go, she's ready and then I start making love - and then it goes soft!'

I have heard this so many times and it something that's very difficult to talk about for most men, but there is always a way, a solution to ensure this doesn't happen again. I've listed the main reasons this happens, obviously everyone is unique and individual and there could be so many more reasons that are physical but today we're looking at this through the lens of the mind.

1) Every man has had a sexual experience that didn't conclude in orgasm, but if this plays on your mind it can quickly become a state of anxiety.

2) Overthinking - sometimes it's nice to plan a night of sex or the next move but when you start thinking, shall I turn her over, shall I do this......all the energy goes to your mind and not your erection. Your mind just can't focus on what's happening in the moment, thoughts of work, negativity, traumatic your body image, shut down the sensations that enable blood to flow into your erection. 

3) Visual overload when things are just getting too sexy and all you can concentrate on is the porn on the screen or the way she looks beside you, the brain is stimulated but the body isn't.

4) A new relationship, when you find a lovely new partner but you're not ready, memories of a failed relationship plays on your mind. And maybe you just don't know your new partner well enough yet, to trust and know everything will be OK no matter how good the sex is, that she knows the real you and not just your image.

4) You're not in a safe place when you make love, this is not always a tangible space but it can be in your mind too- if you think you could be seen or heard by others or a partner has ridiculed you personally, leaving you 'feeling not good enough' even if it was said playfully.  

5) When you were young you were told sex was dirty, disgusting, only for making babies. You were never told or imagined that sex was and self pleasure was joyful and an incredible feeling and energy. That it was OK to make love to someone you felt connected to and loved being with, even if you didn't know if it was a forever situation. Guilt for feeling pleasure in life and our own body

6) If you ever had a sexual experience where you felt violated, were made to feel dirty or even a time when your partner intimated that she wanted you to do 'it' quickly, she wasn't really into the sex but 'let' you do it so she could get to sleep etc. Sex becomes a negative experience and this leaves a negative imprint in the mind.

7) There was a pressure to make your partner pregnant.

8) When the trust between to people has been shattered, humiliation and worthlessness. 

The power of sexual energy is lifegiving and life enhancing, not every sexual experience is perfect. But this sexual energy is also a natural part of life, nurturing ourselves and giving pleasure to others. You can get back to that place of trust in your body and optimum sexual energy and a strong erection. 

You're welcome to call me to discuss a one to one session 0873435081 You can heal! Return to Your Natural Body.

The Andropause is a very underused word- It's the male equivalent of the menopause. A time in a man's life when testosterone levels start to drop, muscle mass is replaced by fat if care of our bodies is not paramount. In conjunction with a Naturopathic Doctor I have created something special for you.

But to some men this a shock, why isn't my body working the way it did a few years ago? What happened to my Libido? what can I do to feel the strength in my body and make love when I want to? My Testosterone levels have plummeted!

2020 and the start of 2021 has been the most stressful time for many people and significantly life changing. Stress affects our bodies in many ways and for some it's the sexual response of our bodies that is the first to change exacerbated by constant worry or unusual sleeping patterns, not enough sleep or too much.

The sexual energy techniques that are covered in a one to to one session put you back in the saddle but what if you can't avail of a session or my Home Practice Videos and Books?

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There are many causes of ED. Medication, Trauma (physical and emotional) unhealthy lifestyle, disease/medical conditions, porn addiction, sex outside a loving consensual relationship just to name a few and all are personal.

Often a circle of anxiety has been created and the moment you say to yourself ' I hope this is going to work this time' is the moment the energy leaves your penis and goes to your brain.

The breathing we do in a session enables the blood to flow freely to your penis. It also relaxes you and enables you to return to your body and halt the overthinking or memories of the past.

It's important to return to your body, to feel the sensations and allow your body to respond naturally and slowly and through loving sensual touch. Being comfortable surrounded by feminine energy.

Often there is a weakness in the PC muscle and this is purely from not exercising your PC muscle which is the muscle holding your whole genital area and keeping it young, strong and tight. 

Opening your sexual energy channels so your body can flow and this is done by stretches and correct massage for blood flow.

Massage of your sacred spot (perineum) which activates blood flow to the whole genital area and brings pleasure.

Ultimately the full body hot oil massage wakes up yet relaxes and clears toxins from your body including the Tantric massage of your lingam (penis and testicles) again to clear toxins and to enable you to experience love and trust for yourself. This massage would be very different and much more sensory than anything you may have experienced.

Tantra weaves loving conscious touch with the science of the body what we need to bring the body and mind to homeostasis and beautiful harmony with yourself and others.

You're welcome to call me to discuss a session 0873435081

Peace and Love from Tara 

How does Tantric Healing for PE and ED work?
Tantra can also be a healing process because breathwork roots us in the present moment.
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You  are love and Tantra is not only for sharing with our beloved but the basis is that it is initially an act of self love.  Many people are often in a loop of negativity when we are plagued by the past which prevents us being totally in our body during sex/love-making.

If we have encountered a negative experience of sex which can range from abuse or just harsh words from friends in the locker room, our parents negativity of sexual love or a feeling of shame or inadequacy of our body – the list is infinite as these are all negative feelings that haunt us. Often it’s a loop our own mind has created that is based on a sentence spoken by another who has never even realized the impact of those words - or the words have been misconstrued and just play over in our mind.

If we experienced sex when it wasn’t part of an equal and loving union then so many negative emotions can rise up. Yet the fact is - it wasn’t our fault, we hadn’t given our permission or we were a victim within a state that we didn’t understand at the time. This is where the mind and body can become disconnected because your mind shuts down - your body stiffens and tightens with the memories, and sex brings these emotions to the surface.
When a caring heart centred space is held for you, you can heal those painful memories and create memories of joy and pleasure and this is what our body was made for, to receive loving bliss and to give this to those we feel a heart connection to.

You can heal. You can begin another chapter in your life because we can replace the pain of the past with beautiful memories of what sexuality should be, a loving, life affirming experience of powerful bliss which releases every feel good chemical in your body in a safe environment. 

Talk therapy can never erase the cellular memory of a negative experience, you have to replace this with a lived through positive experience and learn new ways of perceiving your amazing body. A body that automatically tenses when sexual feelings rise needs to shown a way through the barrier and relax into pleasure through caring, honouring touch.
Often people have no sense of this tension, this is often the case when men get caught up in a circle of anxiety which leads to Premature Ejaculation or Erectile Dysfunction. The tension blocks the sexual energy or the awareness of the reflex of ejaculation is disconnected, the mind is over-thinking or replaying a negative scenario or the subconscious has formed a habit which becomes unconscious.
You can heal, there is a powerful way and only you can be the catalyst of change. 

Peace and love from Tara 0873435081

Classical Tantra is the philosophy of truth and reality. Finding the truth within yourself to live your life authentically-choosing  the way you want to live your life, the work you want to do and being free from the limits that hold you back. Being free to experience sexuality outside the confines of what the media and religion says are the ways that we should.

And free to explore what simply feels good. 

For when you let go of those preconceptions and allow your body to feel rather than your mind to think about the next move- then something magical occurs-instinct- and that’s what many people have become disconnected from, heart felt sense and gut instinct. Those are the things that your mind should have no say in. 

The practices you experience within a Tantra session enable you to drop the idea of what should happen, how your body should be reacting and just let your body be with the sensations. The body is unblocked and free to find that elusive place of infinite joy, spontaneity and presence, letting the good vibrations permeate your body and soul, no thought needed just being there in a state of –beginners mind – open to what occurs with no preconceptions or filters from the past.

Peace and Love From Tara