Sexual Shame & Guilt- It Sucks The Joy out of Making Love
Guilt, Shame & Sex - You Can Reframe Your Mindset
A baby or young child never feels shame or guilt it’s not intuitive. You could say right and wrong is learnt too and is subjective; what is wrong in one family maybe perfectly acceptable in another.
There are boundaries in every civilized society, rules are essential for respect for each other and life.
But what if you had grown up in Sweden in a family where nudity, taking a sauna together for health reasons, sweating out nasty toxins was a weekly family togetherness. Wandering around the house with no clothes on or very little, was normal because it was so hot. Feeling comfortable around nudity was a given, something completely non sexual. Sleeping with your friend, both naked and no sex involved, just closeness and friendly love.
What if you had never been told not to touch yourself ‘down there’ never been told it was bad or dirty.
What if you had touched yourself in public when you were say 4 years old - because it felt good but you were in company and it was inadvertent, but what if your mother gently took you to one side and told you it’s OK to touch but not outside the house or in company but it was OK in the privacy of your bedroom. Would that feel different? Would you have grown up knowing to touch yourself was part of life, love and a healthy expression of love for your own body?
What if you’d never been told when you were younger that a sexual scene in a film or TV program was disgusting? Would you see it for what it was a time of tenderness and love between two people who felt passion and joy with each other. Sharing rare loving intimacy. Yet a scene of rape explained for what it is a violation and wrong and pornography as sex without the love, an act of cold energy, without emotion.
So what if we reframe making love or sex as joy, love and passion something that gives bliss to each other.
What if we reframed masturbation as self pleasure with the truth that other countries embrace – it’s healthy, it balances sex energy, it keeps your prostate healthy and flowing, you know and trust your body and enjoy the pleasure and bliss your body can give you. You engage with your sex power and know the touch that turns you on and is orgasmic.
For women self pleasure gives intimate knowledge of the touch that feels sensual and wonderous.
Self touch keeps the vaginal juices flowing. Orgasm gives positive energy, a knowing, oneness and a sensation that is so life affirming and satisfying. If you can't bring yourself to orgasm then how can you expect your lover to?
Why as intelligent adults could we have ever believed that sensuality, love and a heart connection could truthfully be guilt ridden and shameful. Other cultures honour and love the body, cultivate it’s energy, make beautiful art with it’s form.
Why in some countries do they carry the heavy weight of shame and guilt regarding sex learnt from the repressed beliefs of others. This is a free world and we have the right to make an informed, healthy loving choice with our own minds and bodies.
You can let go of guilt and shame. Learn to love your body as a sacred vessel of unlimited bliss and love,
You’re welcome to call me 0873435081 to discuss a life changing session.
Peace and Love from Tara
Part 2 The dark side of shame and guilt emanating from repression of Sex with no connection or human emotion-Coming Soon
There are boundaries in every civilized society, rules are essential for respect for each other and life.
But what if you had grown up in Sweden in a family where nudity, taking a sauna together for health reasons, sweating out nasty toxins was a weekly family togetherness. Wandering around the house with no clothes on or very little, was normal because it was so hot. Feeling comfortable around nudity was a given, something completely non sexual. Sleeping with your friend, both naked and no sex involved, just closeness and friendly love.
What if you had never been told not to touch yourself ‘down there’ never been told it was bad or dirty.
What if you had touched yourself in public when you were say 4 years old - because it felt good but you were in company and it was inadvertent, but what if your mother gently took you to one side and told you it’s OK to touch but not outside the house or in company but it was OK in the privacy of your bedroom. Would that feel different? Would you have grown up knowing to touch yourself was part of life, love and a healthy expression of love for your own body?
What if you’d never been told when you were younger that a sexual scene in a film or TV program was disgusting? Would you see it for what it was a time of tenderness and love between two people who felt passion and joy with each other. Sharing rare loving intimacy. Yet a scene of rape explained for what it is a violation and wrong and pornography as sex without the love, an act of cold energy, without emotion.
So what if we reframe making love or sex as joy, love and passion something that gives bliss to each other.
What if we reframed masturbation as self pleasure with the truth that other countries embrace – it’s healthy, it balances sex energy, it keeps your prostate healthy and flowing, you know and trust your body and enjoy the pleasure and bliss your body can give you. You engage with your sex power and know the touch that turns you on and is orgasmic.
For women self pleasure gives intimate knowledge of the touch that feels sensual and wonderous.
Self touch keeps the vaginal juices flowing. Orgasm gives positive energy, a knowing, oneness and a sensation that is so life affirming and satisfying. If you can't bring yourself to orgasm then how can you expect your lover to?
Why as intelligent adults could we have ever believed that sensuality, love and a heart connection could truthfully be guilt ridden and shameful. Other cultures honour and love the body, cultivate it’s energy, make beautiful art with it’s form.
Why in some countries do they carry the heavy weight of shame and guilt regarding sex learnt from the repressed beliefs of others. This is a free world and we have the right to make an informed, healthy loving choice with our own minds and bodies.
You can let go of guilt and shame. Learn to love your body as a sacred vessel of unlimited bliss and love,
You’re welcome to call me 0873435081 to discuss a life changing session.
Peace and Love from Tara
Part 2 The dark side of shame and guilt emanating from repression of Sex with no connection or human emotion-Coming Soon
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