GREAT SEX STARTS WITH MINDSET!
Anxiety and negativity can change how your body reacts and our cravings can come from a depletion of nutrients and vitamins that we're not receiving from our food.
When we have a negative view of life or our body, then this is how our body responds - depletion of sexual energy.
For instance imagine this scenario: You go out to a party with your partner you have a great time. You were flirting all night with her and couldn’t wait to get home and go to bed.
But it had been long day, you had a lot of alcohol, you were tired but wired by adrenaline. You were really turned on but just when you started to make love your cock wasn’t as hard as usual, then your mind thought ‘why aren’t I hard OMG what’s happening to me’ and as all those thoughts run through your mind you completely lose your erection, you stop making love, withdraw, turn over and so does your partner. And then negative thoughts may start running through her mind too,' he doesn’t find me attractive, I’ve put on weight and I’ve repulsed him,' the mind has run away with itself. The first time your body couldn't respond because it was depleted by alcohol and tiredness which is normal. But now the negative experience is imprinted on your mind.
A few days later…..you only had a few drinks but it had been a stressful day and then as your partner starts to make love to you….last weekend’s scenario runs through your mind…..’I wonder if my cock will work this time’ and as soon as those negative thoughts invade the brain, the circle of anxiety has begun. And those same negative thoughts from the previous night may be running through your partner’s mind and so a disconnect of intimacy can arise unless your partner has a strong sense of herself.
This can apply to any negative experience sexually or otherwise - the mind is ruling the body.
When you go to your doctor he prescribes you Viagra…..it works hooray! And then it doesn’t work because even subconsciously the mind replays negative stories.
This negative sexual response can also come from deeper within, a feeling of not feeling ‘good enough’. This can stem from negativity from the family when you were young, wounding words from a girl friend before or after sex, a sense of failure in any part of your life, lack of money, a negative body image, the physical and mental trauma of surgery, illness and medical conditions and chronic stress the list is never ending if we allow it to be.
During a session we work with your parasympathetic nervous system to let go of negative responses and thoughts, to bring you back into your body and to feel again through your body and just be present with the natural responses of your body in a safe environment. Because we all need to feel safe and to be kind to ourselves rather than putting stress on ourselves. You can enable yourself to regain that innate trust in our body again.
Tantra fuses the mind body connection.
Wishing you peace and love.