Tantra can also be a healing process because breathwork roots us in the present moment.
You are love and Tantra is not only for sharing with our beloved but the basis is that it is initially an act of self love. Many people are often in a loop of negativity when we are plagued by the past which prevents us being totally in our body during sex/love-making.
If we have encountered a negative experience of sex which can range from abuse or just harsh words from friends in the locker room, our parents negativity of sexual love or a feeling of shame or inadequacy of our body – the list is infinite as these are all negative feelings that haunt us. Often it’s a loop our own mind has created that is based on a sentence spoken by another who has never even realized the impact of those words - or the words have been misconstrued and just play over in our mind.
If we experienced sex when it wasn’t part of an equal and loving union then so many negative emotions can rise up. Yet the fact is - it wasn’t our fault, we hadn’t given our permission or we were a victim within a state that we didn’t understand at the time. This is where the mind and body can become disconnected because your mind shuts down - your body stiffens and tightens with the memories, and sex brings these emotions to the surface.
When a caring heart centred space is held for you, you can heal those painful memories and create memories of joy and pleasure and this is what our body was made for, to receive loving bliss and to give this to those we feel a heart connection to.
You can heal. You can begin another chapter in your life because we can replace the pain of the past with beautiful memories of what sexuality should be, a loving, life affirming experience of powerful bliss which releases every feel good chemical in your body in a safe environment.
Talk therapy can never erase the cellular memory of a negative experience, you have to replace this with a lived through positive experience and learn new ways of perceiving your amazing body. A body that automatically tenses when sexual feelings rise needs to shown a way through the barrier and relax into pleasure through caring, honouring touch.
Often people have no sense of this tension, this is often the case when men get caught up in a circle of anxiety which leads to Premature Ejaculation or Erectile Dysfunction. The tension blocks the sexual energy or the awareness of the reflex of ejaculation is disconnected, the mind is over-thinking or replaying a negative scenario or the subconscious has formed a habit which becomes unconscious.
You can heal, there is a powerful way and only you can be the catalyst of change.
Peace and love from Tara 0873435081